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Creating Calm with Jacquelyn

Creating Calm with Jacquelyn

00KonMari Method, KonMari With Kids, Simplicity ParentingTags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , September 17

Recently, I had the pleasure of supporting Jacquelyn Krieger, the founder of ChakWave, in a Creating Calm session. We cleared the clutter in her daughters’ room using the principles of KonMari (the Japanese art of decluttering) and Simplicity Parenting (the art of parenting simply). We worked together to create a simplified space for her girls to play joyfully and then easily clean up.  As Jacquelyn and I sipped our Gratitude tea she brightly exclaimed, “This is fun!”

Choosing Joy

It is important to begin a Creating Calm decluttering session by getting clear on your vision for your home. Once that is clear, the next step is to get quiet and tune into what “sparks joy.” Keep in mind your child’s preferences based on observing their play and knowing them. When your kids are too young to participate you will do the process without them. There is no need to worry about your choices, you can relax and trust your instincts. I recommend that my clients keep the discards in a secret spot in case there is something specific the child asks for. Believe me, the children will come home overjoyed to be able to find what they are looking for. Usually they even feel like they are discovering new toys in their cleared space!

A place for everything and everything in its place. With plenty of space for creativity.

Jacquelyn described the session as “a very root chakra/grounding experience that helps people’s life foundations be in a sturdier, healthier place.”  In case you are unfamiliar with chakras this is how Jacquelyn describes them on her website,

A chakra is a vortex of constantly moving energy. Imagine subtle energies glowing and rotating like gears or becoming blocked and stagnant dependent on our physical, emotional, and spiritual wellbeing. In Sanskrit, the classical language of India, chakra literally means “wheel.” While there may be thousands of chakras in a body, for simplicity’s sake seven primary chakras are usually focused on. They are often depicted as spinning wheels of light forming a ladder from the base of the spine to the top of the head.

The root chakra specifically is the first chakra which is located at the base of the spine. This chakra establishes deep connections with your physical body, your environment and with the Earth.

When we get quiet and make choices of what to keep – and what to let go – based on trust rather than fear, we get grounded and heal our root chakra. When we connect to our environment we grounded and heal our root chakra. When we move from focusing on material abundance to inner abundance we get grounded and heal our root chakra. This is the kind of healing many of us are craving. It may be intimidating to start the simplifying process in your home, but there are ways to make it enjoyable. The clear spaces and more joyful, easeful life are well worth the effort.

 

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Spring Clearing

Spring Clearing

10KonMari Method, KonMari With KidsTags: , , , , , , , , , April 17

 

Spring is here! It’s been a wet winter here in Northern Califorina, which was exactly what we needed and now we’re ready for some sun. Spring is a great time to get energized to clear and clean your home. In my community we are about to have a “swap” where some amazing mamas organize a day when we can bring all the stuff that we are ready to pass on, and perhaps find stuff that brings us joy. At the end of the day everything left is donated. I’ve been asked to share some tips for de-cluttering, and thought it would be a great resource for people beyond my local community.

 

Low Hanging Fruit

 

First things first, get a garbage bag and a box and go through each room of your house and the garage looking for the obvious things that are no longer serving your family or are garbage. This would be a fairly quick pass through with the idea of finding the stuff that you know you are ready to let go. You might find that this is enough.

 

Clear by Category

 

Now if you want to get serious about clearing the clutter, you’ll need to collect categories of it (or subcategories if you’re a busy mom). This free checklist will guide you. I suggest checking out the Kids section of the checklist; focusing on kids clothing and toys since they grow and develop so rapidly will serve you well. Small doable steps are a great approach to adapting the KonMari method for a mom. I love how Kendra (a local mom) describes her  de-cluttering process:

I like to pick an easy category to start with – I konmari’d my little one’s pants. I threw them all on the floor, pulled out our favorites and then it became really obvious which of the ones that were left didn’t make the cut for us anymore, then (this is the hardest part for me) I actually got the keepers all back in the drawer. Voila! Now her pants drawer is freshly organized with cute little folded pants, I have a bunch to give away and I feel great! 

 

Edit Ruthlessly

 

If you’re attempting to fully de-clutter, be ruthless.  Don’t keep too much stuff, because you’ll just have to go through the categories again and again. That is a waste of your time. Being honest with yourself the first time through might pull at your heart strings, but it is well worth the time (and discomfort!). To help you edit, ask yourself these questions as you go through your stuff:

Is it necessary?

Does it bring me joy? (Does it give me a positive feeling? Or does it give me a negative feeling?)

Having less stuff means less dealing with stuff. Less stuff helps you align with your values. Less stuff means more time connecting with your family and friends.

 

Letting Go

The more you focus on what you are grateful for, the more joy you will feel. Marie Kondo’s  suggestion to actually say “Thank you” to your things as you let them go helps you maintain your attitude of gratitude. If talking to your things seems weird, you can say it in your mind, or find a way to remember how grateful you are. This act of gratitude can alleviate the momentary guilt you may feel about letting go.

 

Homes for Everything

Once you have gone through all your belongings, it’s storage time. Make sure each thing has a specific and permanent home. Creating homes for everything takes time; these strategies can help. Use the magical folding method for cloth. Place books and paper vertically.  Store related items together i.e. like with like.  Divide storage into squares by using boxes or trays.

 

Return Things to their Homes

After you use something, put it back where you got it from- right away, every time. Sounds easy enough, but it takes practice.  If you forget, gently remind yourself and your family. Make sure the home for each thing is simple and clear. With practice you’ll figure it out.

 

Control the In-flow

Once you’ve spent the time and effort developing your “joy meter” and de-cluttering your home, you don’t want to bring a lot back in.  Bring your “joy meter” with you when you go shopping (or to the swap). Trust that feeling and don’t try to convince yourself otherwise. Now that you understand what things are necessary, and what things bring you joy, use that wisdom. If you stay true to your joy, you wont have much for Spring Clearing next year.

Join a Challenge Group On Facebook

We learn best in community. Facebook is a great place to find your tribe. Especially these days there are lots of groups dedicated to KonMari or Minimalism. If you are looking for a KonMari with kids challenge group join our community!

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Meeting the Queen of Tidy

00Uncategorized February 17

Valentine’s Day 2015

It’s been two years since I began my KonMari journey. I read Marie “KonMari” Kondo’s book The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up in January 2015. I literally kissed the book when I finished reading it. I had to do this process in my messy home- it was a big commitment and I really wanted it to happen so I decided to start a FaceBook group. The idea for the group was to create a place to share successes and challenges, especially since the book doesn’t specifically address dealing with a family home. I figured there would be a few others on the same journey. Two years later and we have over 17,000 members!
The magic started right away. I found out through the Facebook group that KonMari would be visiting San Francisco and thanks to Stacey from the group for sharing the almost impossible to find details of the event I was able to meet KonMari in person. She glows with a sweet softness and joy-sparking presence which made me love the method all the more. Meeting her made me realize that I could complete her method and that I could let go of self-criticism about doing it wrong. If we follow our joy while doing the method we are doing it right and will be successful!
I’m so grateful for all that I have learned over the years. I’ve become a Certified Simplicity Parenting Coach and a trained KonMari Consultant! This journey has meant a lot to myself and my family. And now I’m helping other families transform their homes. I offer a group program, Creating Calm Community helping moms become Tidying Queens themselves, which has just started this year and we already have graduates who were able to complete the method much faster with the program.
According to Brené Brown, “Gratitude creates joy.” So keep thanking your socks for all their hard work!
I’ve made a gratitude journal printable for you, to help you focus on gratitude daily.  Check the link below.
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