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Creating Calm with Jacquelyn

Creating Calm with Jacquelyn

00KonMari Method, KonMari With Kids, Simplicity ParentingTags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , September 17

Recently, I had the pleasure of supporting Jacquelyn Krieger, the founder of ChakWave, in a Creating Calm session. We cleared the clutter in her daughters’ room using the principles of KonMari (the Japanese art of decluttering) and Simplicity Parenting (the art of parenting simply). We worked together to create a simplified space for her girls to play joyfully and then easily clean up.  As Jacquelyn and I sipped our Gratitude tea she brightly exclaimed, “This is fun!”

Choosing Joy

It is important to begin a Creating Calm decluttering session by getting clear on your vision for your home. Once that is clear, the next step is to get quiet and tune into what “sparks joy.” Keep in mind your child’s preferences based on observing their play and knowing them. When your kids are too young to participate you will do the process without them. There is no need to worry about your choices, you can relax and trust your instincts. I recommend that my clients keep the discards in a secret spot in case there is something specific the child asks for. Believe me, the children will come home overjoyed to be able to find what they are looking for. Usually they even feel like they are discovering new toys in their cleared space!

A place for everything and everything in its place. With plenty of space for creativity.

Jacquelyn described the session as “a very root chakra/grounding experience that helps people’s life foundations be in a sturdier, healthier place.”  In case you are unfamiliar with chakras this is how Jacquelyn describes them on her website,

A chakra is a vortex of constantly moving energy. Imagine subtle energies glowing and rotating like gears or becoming blocked and stagnant dependent on our physical, emotional, and spiritual wellbeing. In Sanskrit, the classical language of India, chakra literally means “wheel.” While there may be thousands of chakras in a body, for simplicity’s sake seven primary chakras are usually focused on. They are often depicted as spinning wheels of light forming a ladder from the base of the spine to the top of the head.

The root chakra specifically is the first chakra which is located at the base of the spine. This chakra establishes deep connections with your physical body, your environment and with the Earth.

When we get quiet and make choices of what to keep – and what to let go – based on trust rather than fear, we get grounded and heal our root chakra. When we connect to our environment we grounded and heal our root chakra. When we move from focusing on material abundance to inner abundance we get grounded and heal our root chakra. This is the kind of healing many of us are craving. It may be intimidating to start the simplifying process in your home, but there are ways to make it enjoyable. The clear spaces and more joyful, easeful life are well worth the effort.

 

Behind the ScenesRevised

Behind the Scenes of “Tidy up with KonMari”

00Featured news, KonMari MethodTags: , , , , , , , May 16

Behind the ScenesRevised

When Gina Lambie Kruger announced my Facebook group that she was going to have Marie Kondo film the KonMari process in her home, I knew I had to be there. Luckily, Gina is the friendliest person ever and was happy to have me, especially since she had a lot of work to do behind the scenes! I can’t believe I flew across the country (SFO to NYC) for this.  Before reading her book and doing the KonMari Method in my home, I wouldn’t have considered such an adventure. It’s a good illustration of how much personal transformation is possible thanks to Marie Kondo’s book, The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up.  Leaving my daughter and husband behind was the hardest part. The rest was exciting, educational and fun! I was glad to have a big adventure and lend a helping hand.

 

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Good morning NYC!

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We had lots of work to do in order to prepare for Marie Kondo’s next tidying session with Gina. To keep track of it all we used the Checklist I designed for busy moms.

IMG_5421Of course there was plenty of folding involved. Following Marie Kondo’s advice for getting older children involved by folding their clothing, Gina instructs her son on the folding technique.

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He’s a pro at the KonMari fold!

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Next up: Sock Mountain!

We sorted out the joy and folded the kids socks. Then we had KonMari Consultant, Keiko give us a lesson on sock folding and storing. It’s not about one exact way of folding, it depends on the container you are using for storage. Keiko first tried folding the socks in half, but then decided they needed to be folded in thirds. Like Gina mentions in the show, the folding doesn’t have to be one specific way – it can be “your way also”.


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Here’s a big folding surprise:

Marie Kondo chose to hang Gina’s Jeans up in the closet.  Here is quite literally a KonMari’d closet.

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My only claim to fame on the show was the brief moment you see the shoe racks in the closet: yes I put them together.

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The Queen of Tidy is on the scene. She is perfectly perfect.

IMG_6984That day they filmed the tidying lessons of books and papers. Here are some of the tips straight from Marie Kondo:

  1. When doing the book category yearbooks would be considered sentimental.
  2. Catalogs that you read like a book can be included in the book category.
  3. Cookbooks can be stored in the kitchen while other books are stored in a book shelf.
  4. Books should be stored vertically and by category.
  5. For paper, she suggests keeping only the essential ones – its less about joy and more about need.
  6. One should think of the reasons for why you keep each paper.
  7. It is best if each family member has a separate file for their papers.
  8.  Store actionable papers vertically, so you will be more likely to take action.

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In Brooklyn it is easy to find new, joyful homes for books. Around the corner from Gina’s house is a mini library. We brought her discarded books to it and they were gone almost before we could add them to the collection!

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After a lunch break, which was delicious New York style  ricotta pizza, of course. Then there was more work to be done. A house doesn’t KonMari itself ya know!

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It was a true pleasure to get to know Gina and her family, to help her with the tidying process, to see New York and visit some of my friends. What a gift be so inspired and to create a the possibility to fly across the country to have an adventure of a life time. Of course the mission was to meet Marie Kondo and witness her in action. She is pure kindness and joy. I am grateful to have found her books and to have been touched by the magic of tidying up.

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In the conclusion of the show it’s a wonderful surprise to see all the clear surfaces which were once totally cluttered. I especially loved seeing Gina and her family happily playing music in the corner, connecting joyfully in a place in the house which was once inaccessible due to clutter. It’s all about making space for the people and activities that Spark Joy in your life.

If you are interested in seeing the show, it is available until May 23rd.  You can see it here:  http://www3.nhk.or.jp/nhkworld/en/vod/konmari/20160507.html

 

5 Steps to Avoiding a KonMari Rebound

10KonMari MethodTags: , , , , , , April 16

5 steps to avoiding a konmari reboundThe fear of rebound is real. In both of her books , The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up and Spark Joy Marie Kondo frequently mentions how no one has ever rebounded after following her method of tidying. A “rebound” would mean going back to living in a cluttered and messy house after you have completed the method. The idea is to tidy your home by going through all the things you own by category, choosing to keep the things that “spark joy” then thanking and letting go of the rest. No one wants to be the first to fail at the method.

“Thinking of your life after KonMari is the key,” according to Ms. Mitsugu Ando, the Manager of the KonMari Consultants in Japan who recently led a private seminar in San Francisco, California. I was honored to attend the seminar and the notes I took will help you stay on track with your tidying.

 

Follow these steps in order and you will be forever safe from having a KonMari rebound.

1. Imagine your Ideal Home and Life

The first and most important step. Think about the life you want. What does it look like? What does it feel like? How are you spending your time? To answer these questions write down your objective and goals, or create a board on Pinterest, or create a vision board from images cut from magazines pasted on a poster board. However you choose to express yourself, this activity will serve as your guide post to keep you motivated to complete the KonMari Method in your home.

2. Focus on the Positive

One of the ways the KonMari Method stands out from the other methods of decluttering is that it is all about focusing on what you want to keep in your life. Focusing on what brings you joy and surrounding yourself in these joyful belongings will increase your joy.

3. Decide your “Click Point”

The KonMari Method is not minimalism. There is no set number of things you should keep. As you go through your things by category, ask yourself, “how much is enough?” You decide for yourself what is the right amount of things for you.

4. Designate a Home for Each Thing

Once you have gone through all your belongings and kept the joyful things, it’s storage time. Make sure each thing has a home. Some basics of storing are the magical folding method for cloth/soft things, vertical placement, storing like with like and dividing storage into squares by using boxes.

5. Return Things to their Homes

After you use something, put it back where you got it from. Simple enough, right?

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Image: KonMari Media Inc.

Five simple steps that will lead to a forever tidy home. Nothing to be afraid of friends. My favorite lesson from the seminar is to forget all the “rules” of the method and tune into your inner guide. It’s all about finding what “sparks joy” for you. So you be the judge about these five steps. Joy or No Joy?